That's mostly for the student's benefit. In any case, it's hardly here or there at this point.

[Though she's not blunt enough to ask the obvious: Are you projecting? Because that's one way to rationalize the question. That and how far she goes to try and keep her privacy. ]

Although it's a little ironic... that is an answer I've given others, when asked for advice on this subject. Whether they should allow themselves to be with the one they loved, or not ... and how much the risk was worth. Most of them are gone now.